Marriage is such an intense relationship. We come into it with expectations based on all the influences of our family life and the culture we grew up in. Often we're not completely aware of how those influences have created emotional patterns and habits. Add to that the differences between men and women and you've got the set up for misunderstanding and conflict.

If you're married or engaged and you discover that your partner views porn, it can be a shock. It can throw you off balance and make you question your relationship. In some cases, if your spouse has been lying and hiding a secret habit, it can be devastating. But you're not alone, and there's help.